Stop the paper and the milk. What friends to call. Name and phone number of minister; hymns, prayers and the NY cemetery information.
What a gift! I felt her guiding hand as I went through the process of her service and burial. Since then, I’ve written obits for friends and family members and know the comfort and value of having accurate information at hand when it’s most needed.
In contrast, when my dad died in 1996, I was shocked and heartbroken and had to write his obituary in the middle of the night with nothing to reference and no clues to what kind of burial or service he wanted.
These two disparate experiences percolated in me until i finally created a fill-in-the-blank workbook, ObitKit: A Guide to Celebrating Your Life (www.obitkit.com) which is an easy way to leave your life story, your legacy and your final wishes…the best gift, peace of mind, you can possibly leave your family. Unfortunately, both my parents died young and without those conversations and how I wish I had had them. Your project is close to my heart.